Biscoe, Sadie and the Comfort of Home
No matter how much time passes, I can still see Biscoe on the porch, flipping the pages of his newspaper and Sadie with her iced tea, offering me a sense of home and belonging.
I turned fifty-eight this week. And as is usually the case for this time of year, I’m in a reflective mood. That reminded me of the following article I wrote thirteen years ago. The old neighborhood has changed, but the memories remain.
I live in one of those old, established neighborhoods where you know everybody’s name if they are the type of person who wants to be known. And since I live in the same house I grew up in, I can tell you it has been this way since the mid-1970s.
Thinking back to those days, I can recall most of my neighbors names: Alice and her daughter Pam, Biscoe and Sadie, a retired war veteran named Kaj, a widow named Germaine, Dennis and his family, a kid named Mike and his family, a man named Kazimir and his siblings, a couple of kids named Tommy and Lori and their mother, Stan and Bernice, and Tom, Karen and their children. We had a few other houses on the block that multiple families lived in.
Thirty-five years later, some of those same neighbors live in the same houses. Some have moved, and sadly, some have passed away. But I’ll always remember little things about each of them. Today I want to tell you about Biscoe and Sadie. Maybe it’ll prompt memories you have of a couple like this in your neighborhood growing up. If it does, I’d love to hear about them in the comments section.
Biscoe worked in a packing house, and he was a fun-loving guy who loved to tease my sister and me. Sadie was demonstrative when she spoke, often drawing out her words, as if she were in a perpetual state of surprise (Noooooooo. Reeeeeeeeeeally?!), and she gasped between sentences. She was also as sweet as they come.
We moved into the neighborhood after my parents divorced. I was eight and my sister was five. Mom had to go back to work so she needed a babysitter. Sadie came to the rescue. During the school year, she walked across the street to make sure my sister and I got off to school in time. During the summer, we stayed at her house, which was always interesting.
Biscoe and Sadie were Polish and once in a while Sadie would speak Polish. I always suspected she did that when she wanted to cuss, but I was never able to confirm my suspicions. Biscoe was much less tactful. He actually taught me a few Polish cuss words.
Biscoe brought home some of the craziest things to eat from the packing house – including pickled pigs feet, cow hearts and various other animal parts that should never be consumed in my opinion. Hearing me say, “Ewwww” just gave him more ammo for teasing me.
I don’t know how Mom ever afforded to pay Sadie, but I can remember Sadie denying money from Mom on multiple occasions because that’s just the type of neighbor she was. Even after my sister and I no longer needed a babysitter, we would go to Sadie's to visit her, or she would come across the street to visit with all of us – especially after Biscoe died. She passed away quite a few years later.
Even though the neighborhood has changed, the impact of those early years and the people who filled them remains. Biscoe and Sadie, and all the others, remind me of the importance of community, kindness, and the simple joys of life. Their presence in my childhood shaped the way I view the world, and I find comfort in knowing that these memories will always be a part of me.
No matter how much time passes, I can still see Biscoe on the porch, flipping the pages of his newspaper and Sadie with her iced tea, offering me a sense of home and belonging.
Lee is the author of essay books that encourage you to slow down and live deeper, novels that make you feel, and devotional books that encourage reflection. You can visit his store here.
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Here are some tidbits you might find interesting this week:
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“Books don’t change people: paragraphs do, sometimes even sentences.” - John Piper
God’s Will Isn’t a Mystery by Tabitha McDuffee is food for thought.
When Lee isn’t writing essays, devotional books, or Christian fiction, he is a freelance editor, as well as a freelance journalist who has written hundreds of articles for various newspapers and magazines. He’s also a fan of NASCAR, baseball, tennis, books, movies and coffee shops.